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Mental Models

A topic by Tony Ennis
  • Have seen this pop up several times now - but this is the best overview.
  • Disagree with the closing line: "Paraphrasing is like magic pixie dust you can sprinkle onto any conversation to make it more positive and productive." My experience is when you start doing this, even with the right tone, it seems disingenuous. But this can be overcome by being up front.
  • "If your roommate says, “I feel like I’ve been doing all the chores lately,” you might object internally with, “That’s not true! I did the dishes this morning!”
  • "These reactions happen imperceptibly, and we move towards feeling uncomfortable or defensive without knowing how we got there."
  • Benefit of parahrasing: allows for full understanding on both sides & helps speaker feel understood.
  • On the need to be understood: "The unconscious fear is that if we aren’t understood it will be as if we never existed."
  • "Time required to reach conflict resolution is cut in half when each negotiator agrees to accurately repeat what the previous speaker had said"
  • When to paraphrase: After receiving a request, After receiving feedback, When the speaker is sharing something vulnerable, If you’re unsure of what the speaker meant.
  • Avoid declarative tone.
about 1 month ago
  • Not an article about blockchain or cryptocurrencies, but its central point makes a strong argument in favour of both. While blockchain detractors point out its non-suitability for doing old things better, they miss the new things blockchains can unlock.
  • New technologies enable activities that fall into one of two categories:
    • 1) Doing things you could already do but can now do better because they are faster, cheaper, easier, higher quality, etc.
    • 2) Doing brand new things that you simply couldn’t do before
  • "The early electrical grid delivered light better than gas and candles. It took decades before we got an electricity “app store” — a rich ecosystem of appliances that connected to the grid"
  • "When evaluating the potential of blockchains, people sometimes focus on things like cheaper and faster global payments" - these are in the "doing old things better" category. They don't consider the crypto-native category, such as "services that are owned and operated by their users", among others.
about 1 month ago